A life not planned.

Hello guys,

I am delighted to share with you all a story that touched my heart, not every detail can be written here because am trying to protect the identity of the person in question. She gave me the permission to talk briefly about this. Am sure that this might end up motivating someone. Who knows?

The purpose of life is to live it, to taste every experience to the fullest and lastly to be able to make a huge difference.

I met someone who told me a story about how she struggled to where she is now. She is currently very wealthy and i am happy that everything worked out well for her.

At the age of 17 she got raped by their neighbor and got pregnant.She was so young and fragile, her father was so strict. She was sent out of the house. With no one to run to she had to move in with a boyfriend that was five years older. He made sure she wasn’t going for an abortion. She gave birth, he supported her in every way possible. At a point she wanted to give up, she felt rejected, she was scared of going outside her world. Musa made sure she went to the university, graduated,and he her got a very good job. Got married to the same guy that supported her all these years. After so many challenges, things began to really change for the couple.

But she made it, yes she faced her fears and went from being no one to someone. Life is not always good to anyone, I personally don’t let my fears get to me. Being confident and strong for ourselves is definitely a thing to consider. We obviously have people looking up to us, believing in us and in every step we take the ones who believe in us will always be there to support.

My point is no matter the things you face in life, yours is 10x better than someone’s. You just need to calm down, try to take deep breaths, think about every action you take. We should always be responsible for our actions regardless of the outcome.

At the end of the day we are all who we are.


Burnt while thinking.

FC4D33C8-3F57-4E18-B208-CEB2AA490432I spend most of my days thinking about so many things that are or could be while sipping a cup of tea. It is so impossible not want a life so free of drama and filled with those who matter a lot to me. My life is under control but then I don’t get to decide how everything goes most times. Especially when I know that part of being a Muslim is accepting that you don’t get to choose what goes on in your life, Allah does ( it’s that simple).

Don’t get me wrong am not here to preach about faith, am here to write down everything that’s in my head before I go to sleep. When am in between the reality and the fairytale that we women spend a lifetime thinking about, I just forget that am taking something hot. That’s when I burn my tongue, and I snap out of the mood. I burnt my tongue and it hurts so painful …. 

Now that is reality. 

All of a sudden am scared, it’s almost like 

part of it is the pressure to have it all figured out.

…. Deejah❤️


The virtues of charcoal

9D056B51-37BD-4DDB-9319-FFF7516C9B9B.jpegCharcoal is one of the most disregarded products at home. We only see the need for it when it is time to set fire for Banku.
However, if you really need first aid, charcoal is something you need to have on you all the time, you might not know this but it is one of the most medicinal products you can have at home due to its poison extraction ability.
In case you never gave it much attention, this is the time to do so.
Here are *14 benefits* of charcoal you never thought about.

1. Odour Prevention
Does your shoe smell bad? just get some charcoal and put it in them. Do you have any bad smell in your room? Drop some charcoal where you suspect the smell could be coming from. Does your fridge or freezer smell? Put a piece of charcoal in it. Do you have strong body odour? Just make a powder out of charcoal and use, thank us later.
Charcoal is very good at getting rid of bad smell. Ever wondered why your parents always scooped out the ash from the coal pot to pour in the hen coop or toilet before sweeping? That was to get rid of the odour.

2. Keeping Food Fresh
If you want your vegetables to be fresh all the time, just make a solution out of charcoal and leave your vegetables in them. Thank us later.

3. Toxins Removal from Food
These days, people complain about the use of fertilizers on plants and vegetables, making them unwholesome and poisonous. If you have charcoal, you don’t need to worry about this, all you need to do is leave the vegetables in a charcoal solution overnight and it’ll take care of the toxins. If you suspect any food contains too many chemicals, just drop them in a charcoal solution for some hours and you’re good to go.

4. Teeth Whitening
If you want to whiten your teeth, pay no attention to all these adverts on whitening chemicals and technology, just get yourself some charcoal and grab hold of a plantain stalk, make a powder out of the charcoal, mash the tip of the plantain stalk, dip it into the charcoal powder and brush your teeth with it for a week, thank us later.

5. Restoration of Soup That Went Bad
Did your groundnut soup or palm nut soup go bad? No need to worry about pouring it all away. Just put it back on fire and drop a piece of charcoal in it. This will extract all the bad taste and smell and restore the soup to its fresh state.

6. Detoxification
Do you have a hangover out of a drink out with friends the previous night, just have some charcoal with you and chew on it. To make it more effective, make a nice solution out of it and drink, you’re good to go.

7. Neutralization of Alcohol
If you mistakenly did some wild mixing and feel it can knock you out, just add some charcoal to the mixture and your problem is solved. Or if you took in too much alcohol, just drink some charcoal solution and you’re good to go.

8. Healing Wounds
Do you have a situation where someone’s wound has become so infected to the state doctors are saying they have to cut the affected area? Don’t stress over it, get a large amount of charcoal powder and pour it on the wound. This will extract all the poison from the wound and also help it heal faster. If you have a cut and you want to treat it fast, just get some powdered charcoal and pour on it.

9. Water Filtration
Do you feel your water is contaminated? You don’t need all these products on the market, charcoal can do better, just drop some amount of it in it. Don’t worry about the colour, it is safe, you can even chew on charcoal. It is far safer than eating chicken from KFC.

10. Skin Cleansing
Do you have pimples, acne or any skin disease you really want to get rid of or do you want a very smooth face or skin? All you need is charcoal. Make a thick solution out of it and smear it on your body and leave it on for some hours before taking your bath. It will leave your skin smooth and fresh.

11. Stain Removal
Do you have some stubborn stain in your kitchen, washroom or on your tiles? You actually need charcoal to get rid of it. I know you’re imagining how this black stainy product can actually remove stains right? Just try it, it works like magic.

12. Getting Rid of a Bloated Stomach
If you ate or drank something and feel bloated, charcoal is the best solution to get rid of the bloating.

13. Getting Rid of Bad Cholesterol In You
Making a solution out of it and drinking helps eliminate all the bad cholesterol you have stored in you.

14. Ulcer Treatment
Charcoal can treat all the ulcers out there you can think of including stomach ulcer. Just make it a habit to always chew on some.

Activated Charcoal
Activated charcoal is also useful but the above benefits are from using simple charcoal.
You cannot make activated charcoal at home. It is a manufactured product. It is actually a drug and available in tablets to deal with poisoning in clinics. Luckily, the best type is derived from coconut shell. Bioresources Institute of Nigeria (BION) at Umuna, Imo State has initiated the processing of food and drug grade activated charcoal under GMP conditions, to be realized as soon as the target specifications are met.

Activated charcoal can interfere with the absorption nutrients, supplements and prescription medications. Take activated charcoal 90 minutes to two hours prior to meals, supplements and prescription medications. Potential adverse interactions with the following drugs can occur: naltrexone (used for alcohol and opioid dependence), acrivastine, bupropion, carbinoxamine, fentanyl, hydrocodone, meclizine, morphine, methadone, morphine sulfate liposome, mycophedone, oxymorphone, suvorexant, tapendol, unexlidinium, acetaminophin, tricyclic antidepressants, theophylline. When selecting activated charcoal, it’s vital that you know what it’s made from. Not all activated charcoal supplements are created equally. Look for activated charcoal made from coconut shells or identified wood species that have ultra-fine grains. In the powdered from, many products have added artificial sweeteners to make them more palatable; avoid these. Artificial sweeteners are loaded with chemicals and frankly speaking, it doesn’t make sense to take activated charcoal to get your body rid of chemicals and toxins if it’s loaded with chemicals. Sweeten it naturally if desired with fresh juice or of natural sweetener.

what I recall.

Hello everyone,


So here is the thing, the first boy I fell in love with used to tell me interesting story about kings, queens, islands, horses, castles and nature. And also how he hoped to be my first and last. He made me feel safe and comfortable around him.


I lived vicariously through all these memories and thoughts. Back then, watching the way he spoke to me softly made me love him more and more. I always laughed at his jokes including the dry ones. He also taught me what it feels like to be touched and throughly kissed.


Regardless of his flaws he made sure I learnt the pain to be felt when I loose someone I got attached to.


This one actually made me realize that nothing lasts forever even pains. We all need some closure, matters of the heart are very delicate.

5 secrets I would definitely tell my daughter.

Hello everyone,

Am very excited about this post because it is very important I share this with everyone. A big shout out to all the mothers in the world (you give us a reason to live).

So here is the thing : I don’t have a child yet and yes am not married but being around women has been a good experience. My mom is the only reason why I am writing this.

Just because I don’t have a child yet doesn’t disqualify me to have all these ideas in my head ( please don’t judge me).

Well, some will say Mother’s Day was a few days back but for me it’s an everyday day affair. So cheers. Mothers should be celebrated every single day. So the idea to blog about this came after an interesting phone call I had with the only one (mom) who inspires all my thoughts about love, empathy, and relationship advice that I would want to share with my daughter.

My mom is one of my greatest mentors.

She understands what it is to be a strong, protective parent, but also how to live with an open heart and an attitude of generosity and kindness that overwhelms everyone she meets.

  • Don’t be afraid; men are humans and they got feelings too. They aren’t as strong as they look and act. Men are all the same it all depends on your perspective. They get scared and frightened of rejection. Men can be very vulnerable too so please don’t be afraid of them.
  • Instead of focusing on impressing a man, try to focus all that energy on yourself and the things that makes you interesting. Do what makes you happy. Eg reading books(novels), sports, hobbies(swimming, dancing, cooking etc), hang out more with your friends(intellectual friends). Do you.
  • Dont feel pressured by a man at all. Try to make decisions on your own and take responsibilities for your actions.
  • Take things slowly, don’t be too quick to make him your world if you are not sure. Be ready for anything, be ready for a change just Incase things don’t work out for the both of you. Be open minded and socialize with people, you never know things can fascinate.

Lastly, My sweetheart you have to work on yourself, be the best version of yourself. Be the woman a man would die to have. Be the woman everyman  will want have as a wife.

The end game should be a happy ending. So I hope this brings you a happy ending.

Lots of love


How do you take care of your hair?

For starters, I take personal hygiene seriously and my hair has to smell good. Imagine being hugged and then the person wishes it never happened (that’s bad right?). Well in order to make yourself feel comfortable and wanted you have to be careful about how you clean yourself up. Some ladies are actually very lazy in spending money to get good hygiene products but I personally believe that you have to use money to get a good result. As a lady you can’t afford to be referred to as a smelly girl, trust me guys are good at knowing and talking about this sarcastically among themselves.

Back to your hair

what products do you prefer? There are tons of hair products you could choose from but don’t forget to read through their contents and details. Take note that the texture of hair varies as well, some girls have an oily scalp while some have a dry scalp. So knowing yours helps you in choosing the products. Some of us have our natural hair, some have a relaxed hair, some have dreadlocks (been wanting keep dreads) tbh.

Today I will be focusing on how to take care of a relaxed hair. I will also share with you the product I enjoy using ranging from shampoo, conditioner, hair lotion, set mousse, edge control, hair masque etc Taking  care of relaxed hair means maintaining the right balance without taking away from the natural elements in place. With the use of chemicals, this can be tricky. Wash your hair every week, use a good hair cream, always dry your hair when damp, spray your hair when necessary. Build your confidence with good hygiene please.                                                                        So ladies, this is for you….

AA7C81A6-E0D2-4DB5-AC42-FA5BD7E8A80AAny Shea Moisture product you get will do wonders with you just keep calm and let your hair look good and smell better.


68B367EA-06A7-4ECD-87FA-8260948B3E97Hair sprays are extremely helpful in controlling unruly and small strands of hair which spoil your look and do not let the hairstyle become complete and perfect.The first and foremost advantage of using a hair spray is that it helps to create and hold various kinds of complex hairstyles with ease.


D4492312-6646-4B42-8345-2D60B6E1E9DF    Tre Semme is a good one, and it has vitamin E in it. Use it and thank me later.


C4F2A3F0-025E-4F4D-858B-B7245BA1B4AF  For my hair I prefer this product, it has a unique way of making my hair beautiful, weightless and healthy.

And lastly I want to share with you my collection of hair products because I want you all to feel good about your hair like I do. Lol

B74B0EE1-CEF9-4CE3-8137-864260FC9211 Oh yeah Olive oil products are my best. I want to challenge everyone reading this to go try out some products not necessarily the ones I just talked about. You are entitled to make your choice too, it’s your hair not mine.

PS Don’t forget to use Coconut oil it’s another secret to a great hair.

Thanks for reading this and am looking forward to seeing comments on your hair experience.💖

Fun day..


I have been mute for sometime now, can’t even understand why am always inconsistent with my blogging. But i want to change that so am looking forward to being more serious about it.

I want to share with you some pictures that I took some days back. Pardon me please. I try to be simple, beautiful and comfortable in what I wear.

One good thing about me is that I always make sure that what I wear gives me the confidence that I need. I don’t have much designer clothes honestly but in my own humble opinion I think that doesn’t matter at all. My style is my design LOl if you know what I mean😂. If I can’t afford Gucci, LV, Zara etc does that mean I won’t look good????